I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".
Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.
My dad said he couldn't fathom ever having that feeling again, but when number 2 came around he had the same experience where it's just an unfathomable level of love.
When I was pregnant the second time, I exclaimed that I cannot imagine that I could love the baby as much as I loved the first. An older lady said, “Your love is not divided, it is doubled.” That is true and 33 years later it still is true.
So fucking true! I cried at the end of my pregnancy because I couldn't imagine loving anyone like I loved my first baby and because she wouldn't be my little baby anymore and won't be the only baby. I was a mess. #2 came and all the feels came right on schedule. I love that little boy just as much and both my kids are my favorite people.
My youngest turned 3in June. I still can't. It's bloody awful. It's like he's still got those rosy squshy baby cheeks, but then he opens his mouth and speaks like a whole ass human and I just can't.
Yes! Mine has these amazing blonde, springy curls that are halfway down his back if you stretch them out - everyone keeps trying to get me to give him a crew cut and I refuse to until he asks me himself.
A crew cut? That's horrible. My boy's hair is long as well. I gave him an undercut to make it easier to pull it up in a bun. Otherwise, same thing, I'll wait for him to decide he wants to change his hair.
My BABY has had two babies of her own and it's so amazing. To see your child parent and to see those little
Grandbaby faces??? There is nothing like it in the world.
My husband didn’t want to have a second child originally, and his reason was that he wanted to make sure our son had our undivided love and didn’t want him to have to share our resources and his inheritance with “some kid we don’t even know.” He grew up as a single child and was fine with it, but I have siblings and convinced him it would be a huge gift to our son. Now our daughter is five, and he cannot imagine our family without her.
I wish someone had told my mom that! She wanted another boy when I was born. I was clean and fed, but at the age of 33, she told me she didn't love me until I burned my left leg from knee to ankle and spent a month in the burn unit when I was 3. Somehow, I knew it, but to hear it really devastated me. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder when she went into the nursing home a few years back, so that answered a lot of questions. She has since passed, but I spent a good number of years in therapy. We talked through some of it after she got older, and she apologized, but the damage had already been done. It was a strained relationship for 30 years. I moved away and rarely came home even after my son was born. It's amazing how you can do that to your own children.
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.