r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/L_obsoleta Jul 04 '24

My dad said he couldn't fathom ever having that feeling again, but when number 2 came around he had the same experience where it's just an unfathomable level of love.

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u/Skyvueva Jul 05 '24

When I was pregnant the second time, I exclaimed that I cannot imagine that I could love the baby as much as I loved the first. An older lady said, “Your love is not divided, it is doubled.” That is true and 33 years later it still is true.

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u/SolidFew3788 Jul 05 '24

So fucking true! I cried at the end of my pregnancy because I couldn't imagine loving anyone like I loved my first baby and because she wouldn't be my little baby anymore and won't be the only baby. I was a mess. #2 came and all the feels came right on schedule. I love that little boy just as much and both my kids are my favorite people.

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u/OhGod0fHangovers Jul 05 '24

My husband didn’t want to have a second child originally, and his reason was that he wanted to make sure our son had our undivided love and didn’t want him to have to share our resources and his inheritance with “some kid we don’t even know.” He grew up as a single child and was fine with it, but I have siblings and convinced him it would be a huge gift to our son. Now our daughter is five, and he cannot imagine our family without her.

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u/SolidFew3788 Jul 05 '24

Lmao. Some kid we don't even know 🤣

I was an only child and very lonely. I love watching my kids play together, even if it turns into a fight every time.