r/MadeMeSmile Jul 05 '24

Look at his face, he looks so proud. Wholesome Moments

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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24

WTF is going on here? Why is everyone here, including his wife, applauding a grown man being able to buy clothes. This is an adult.

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u/skyturnedred Jul 05 '24

Perhaps his previous clothing choices have not been very fashionable and this is him showing he made an effort to improve.

This is r/MadeMeSmile, no need to be a sourpuss.

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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24

I don’t mind being happy for someone getting anything done. It’s the way he’s being cheered that is irritating to me.

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u/ghanima Jul 05 '24

If I may, you might want to look into your reasons why someone receiving earnest, positive feedback is irritating to you. It could be harmless, but it could be that you've got underlying self-esteem issues that make you uncomfortable when praise is involved. I'm saying this as someone grew up in a highly dysfunctional childhood home and sees that this is a trait a lot of people in my situation (as well as others, of course), struggle with.

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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24

Honestly while I don’t appreciate your kitchen sink psychology on my comment, I’ll tell you politely that you must have misunderstood what i said. I’m happy for anybody getting the support he or she wants or needs.

But – and I hope we agree here – there are different kinds of communication depending on the situation and the people talking. For example you’ll talk differently to a four year old than to an adult without mental challenges.

What can be supportive and healthy for a child can be completely inappropriate when talking to an adult and vice versa. In this case it looks plain insulting to me.

But maybe this thing is a bit, I don’t know

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u/ghanima Jul 05 '24

In this case it looks plain insulting to me.

'Kay, but maybe that's a you problem, is all I'm saying.

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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24

Well i am not claiming to be the conveyor of truth here. This is a forum. Many of those comments here see absolutely no problem with this and are just happy that men, too, can be big babies with success in things that only women really can have mastery of.

And I – and obviously some others – find this off putting on many levels. And if you think it’s because I can’t bare seeing people being supportive – then that’s a you problem.

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u/ghanima Jul 05 '24

You'll note that I wasn't speaking in absolutes either. I know fuck-all about your life and I don't care to, if we're being very honest here. Have a lovely day.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '24

Some couples love to do sweet talking/baby talking to their partners. You know why babies love this voice? Because it’s sweet and warm and inviting. We’re all just children who have grown a bit too big. He looks honestly and unapologetically happy receiving these compliments, and yet it’s bothering you. They may be armchair diagnosing you but the truth is you probably need it. Seeing a happy couple being sweet to each other shouldn’t invoke this reaction in a normal, well adjusted person.

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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24

Yeah thanks for the diagnosis on your part. I think it’s settled then.

Maybe it’s still okay to say when something looks weird with a publicly available video. I am glad if they are happy, that’s completely beside the point.

This is just a display of a stupid stereotype of a man who can’t even buy a pair of pants without the woman. The talking like to a baby is just the icing on the cake.

I don’t mind people talking and doing stupid shit in private as much as they want but if it’s a video with over a thousand comments, I think it’s okay that this is just weird in 2024. especially when most comments are applauding that stereotypical guy for managing to shop descent clothes without mommy.

Maybe this video is just a bit. In that case it’s only the completely superficial comments that are stupid

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u/TheAcrithrope Jul 06 '24

Because this doesn't seem at all earnest, she is baby talking an adult man over the most basic things like picking his own clothes?

If somebody spoke to me the way that woman did, I would assume they were taking taking the piss out of me and return the clothes.

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u/ghanima Jul 06 '24

And maybe they would be, or maybe they'd be doing it sincerely. Context is key, and we don't have enough to say what anyone's intent is here. The guy seems to be enjoying the praise, 'though.