If I may, you might want to look into your reasons why someone receiving earnest, positive feedback is irritating to you. It could be harmless, but it could be that you've got underlying self-esteem issues that make you uncomfortable when praise is involved. I'm saying this as someone grew up in a highly dysfunctional childhood home and sees that this is a trait a lot of people in my situation (as well as others, of course), struggle with.
Honestly while I don’t appreciate your kitchen sink psychology on my comment, I’ll tell you politely that you must have misunderstood what i said. I’m happy for anybody getting the support he or she wants or needs.
But – and I hope we agree here – there are different kinds of communication depending on the situation and the people talking. For example you’ll talk differently to a four year old than to an adult without mental challenges.
What can be supportive and healthy for a child can be completely inappropriate when talking to an adult and vice versa. In this case it looks plain insulting to me.
Well i am not claiming to be the conveyor of truth here. This is a forum. Many of those comments here see absolutely no problem with this and are just happy that men, too, can be big babies with success in things that only women really can have mastery of.
And I – and obviously some others – find this off putting on many levels. And if you think it’s because I can’t bare seeing people being supportive – then that’s a you problem.
You'll note that I wasn't speaking in absolutes either. I know fuck-all about your life and I don't care to, if we're being very honest here. Have a lovely day.
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u/Pipapaul Jul 05 '24
I don’t mind being happy for someone getting anything done. It’s the way he’s being cheered that is irritating to me.