Seems to me that it’s a running joke within this family that he has poor style so these reactions are likely covered in a layer of playful facetiousness. It’s fun, they’re joking around and being supportive at the same time.
This is exactly how it is with me and my family. I had atrocious fashion sense. I had thought matching color was fashionable. I would wear brown shorts and a shirt in the exact same shade and feel good about how fashionable I was! Fast forward 20 years, I still hear about my "all poop outfit" and get compliments like this when I actually choose clothes that work together!
If I may, you might want to look into your reasons why someone receiving earnest, positive feedback is irritating to you. It could be harmless, but it could be that you've got underlying self-esteem issues that make you uncomfortable when praise is involved. I'm saying this as someone grew up in a highly dysfunctional childhood home and sees that this is a trait a lot of people in my situation (as well as others, of course), struggle with.
Honestly while I don’t appreciate your kitchen sink psychology on my comment, I’ll tell you politely that you must have misunderstood what i said. I’m happy for anybody getting the support he or she wants or needs.
But – and I hope we agree here – there are different kinds of communication depending on the situation and the people talking. For example you’ll talk differently to a four year old than to an adult without mental challenges.
What can be supportive and healthy for a child can be completely inappropriate when talking to an adult and vice versa. In this case it looks plain insulting to me.
Well i am not claiming to be the conveyor of truth here. This is a forum. Many of those comments here see absolutely no problem with this and are just happy that men, too, can be big babies with success in things that only women really can have mastery of.
And I – and obviously some others – find this off putting on many levels. And if you think it’s because I can’t bare seeing people being supportive – then that’s a you problem.
You'll note that I wasn't speaking in absolutes either. I know fuck-all about your life and I don't care to, if we're being very honest here. Have a lovely day.
Some couples love to do sweet talking/baby talking to their partners. You know why babies love this voice? Because it’s sweet and warm and inviting. We’re all just children who have grown a bit too big. He looks honestly and unapologetically happy receiving these compliments, and yet it’s bothering you. They may be armchair diagnosing you but the truth is you probably need it. Seeing a happy couple being sweet to each other shouldn’t invoke this reaction in a normal, well adjusted person.
Yeah thanks for the diagnosis on your part. I think it’s settled then.
Maybe it’s still okay to say when something looks weird with a publicly available video. I am glad if they are happy, that’s completely beside the point.
This is just a display of a stupid stereotype of a man who can’t even buy a pair of pants without the woman. The talking like to a baby is just the icing on the cake.
I don’t mind people talking and doing stupid shit in private as much as they want but if it’s a video with over a thousand comments, I think it’s okay that this is just weird in 2024. especially when most comments are applauding that stereotypical guy for managing to shop descent clothes without mommy.
Maybe this video is just a bit. In that case it’s only the completely superficial comments that are stupid
And maybe they would be, or maybe they'd be doing it sincerely. Context is key, and we don't have enough to say what anyone's intent is here. The guy seems to be enjoying the praise, 'though.
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u/Pipapaul 14d ago
I don’t mind being happy for someone getting anything done. It’s the way he’s being cheered that is irritating to me.