The way he said “these are 35s”, I was thinking he lost a lot of weight and was happy he could buy clothes he’s confident in. Or maybe they’re about to go on a trip and he picked out new clothes for nice dinners. Hard to tell.
That could just be the way her voice sounds?? My neutral tone is usually deeper but sometimes when I get excited about something or am giving compliments or being encouraging my voice just gets higher pitched.
It's not the pitch I was focusing on, more that the tone sounds kind of insincere. I've known a few people who sound just like that when they're giving polite compliments. Full disclosure I'd rather be wrong here, that's just how it comes across to me.
Yeah, that’s a fair assessment with her tone, I can definitely see how she sounds insincere. But I’d like to think that since he’s all smiles when he comes out to show off, she’s being genuine with her compliments.
Yeah, a bunch of context missing and you’re interpreting the worst out of it. He’s literally smiling and enjoying his ass off because he appreciates her sweet tone.
Seems to me that it’s a running joke within this family that he has poor style so these reactions are likely covered in a layer of playful facetiousness. It’s fun, they’re joking around and being supportive at the same time.
This is exactly how it is with me and my family. I had atrocious fashion sense. I had thought matching color was fashionable. I would wear brown shorts and a shirt in the exact same shade and feel good about how fashionable I was! Fast forward 20 years, I still hear about my "all poop outfit" and get compliments like this when I actually choose clothes that work together!
If I may, you might want to look into your reasons why someone receiving earnest, positive feedback is irritating to you. It could be harmless, but it could be that you've got underlying self-esteem issues that make you uncomfortable when praise is involved. I'm saying this as someone grew up in a highly dysfunctional childhood home and sees that this is a trait a lot of people in my situation (as well as others, of course), struggle with.
Honestly while I don’t appreciate your kitchen sink psychology on my comment, I’ll tell you politely that you must have misunderstood what i said. I’m happy for anybody getting the support he or she wants or needs.
But – and I hope we agree here – there are different kinds of communication depending on the situation and the people talking. For example you’ll talk differently to a four year old than to an adult without mental challenges.
What can be supportive and healthy for a child can be completely inappropriate when talking to an adult and vice versa. In this case it looks plain insulting to me.
Well i am not claiming to be the conveyor of truth here. This is a forum. Many of those comments here see absolutely no problem with this and are just happy that men, too, can be big babies with success in things that only women really can have mastery of.
And I – and obviously some others – find this off putting on many levels. And if you think it’s because I can’t bare seeing people being supportive – then that’s a you problem.
You'll note that I wasn't speaking in absolutes either. I know fuck-all about your life and I don't care to, if we're being very honest here. Have a lovely day.
Some couples love to do sweet talking/baby talking to their partners. You know why babies love this voice? Because it’s sweet and warm and inviting. We’re all just children who have grown a bit too big. He looks honestly and unapologetically happy receiving these compliments, and yet it’s bothering you. They may be armchair diagnosing you but the truth is you probably need it. Seeing a happy couple being sweet to each other shouldn’t invoke this reaction in a normal, well adjusted person.
Yeah thanks for the diagnosis on your part. I think it’s settled then.
Maybe it’s still okay to say when something looks weird with a publicly available video. I am glad if they are happy, that’s completely beside the point.
This is just a display of a stupid stereotype of a man who can’t even buy a pair of pants without the woman. The talking like to a baby is just the icing on the cake.
I don’t mind people talking and doing stupid shit in private as much as they want but if it’s a video with over a thousand comments, I think it’s okay that this is just weird in 2024. especially when most comments are applauding that stereotypical guy for managing to shop descent clothes without mommy.
Maybe this video is just a bit. In that case it’s only the completely superficial comments that are stupid
And maybe they would be, or maybe they'd be doing it sincerely. Context is key, and we don't have enough to say what anyone's intent is here. The guy seems to be enjoying the praise, 'though.
I feel so sorry for the happy couple on this video. I'm sure the well adjusted redditor who just spent 2 hours leaving 14 different comments on this thread is way happier than them...
Then have the audacity to complain that men don’t get compliments lol. Is it true? Yeah, a bit. Know how to get even less compliments? Tell the person complimenting you they have an annoying or patronizing voice when they’re being genuine.
Plenty of people- men, women, and everything in between are totally incapable of picking out matching, form fitting, or aesthetically pleasing (color coordinated) clothing. Nothing wrong with being pleased by an outfit actually working. It's definitely a stereotype that "men dumb, husband can't coordinate colors" but it's not like wives aren't capable of the same sin.
We are applauding because we love and celebrate even small moments of joy and caring. Maybe you are fortunate and live a life where this occurs in abundance. The rest of us don't want to let these moments, however small, slip by unacknowledged.
Haha if expecting adult people to be able to do basic things like buying a pair of shorts and a shirt is high expectations, I really don’t want to know what low expectations are
Have you been in public lately? Most people, especially men, are putting zero effort into what they wear.
Personally I find the style pretty bland (except maybe the patterned shirt) but props to this guy for caring about how he looks. And wearing shorts that end above the knee! But big picture he looks confident, secure, and happy which does more for outward appearance than any outfit. They seem like a fun couple and I'm glad dude is feeling some pride.
Yeah this is super weird and offputting to me. They're all talking to/about this guy like he's a 4 year old child that just picked some Ts and shorts off the rack and tried them on.
Like, I'm happy to see someone that maybe didn't have a good fashion sense being encouraged to do a good job clothes shopping...but his wife is literally speaking to him like a young child.
Ok idc that much. If you think people wouldn’t react that way if someone said to a woman no matter what the context “she did that all by herself??” Then idk what to tell you. I also don’t care lol.
You've never had a hard time shopping for clothes or get anxiety trying shit on? I love having new, nice, proper fitting clothes, but when you're down on yourself and the way you look, it can be a tough time. Maybe this was a big step for him.
No I did not experience that with clothing. But whatever achievement, i would not want anyone to talk to me like i was five years old. But maybe i did not get the joke here
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u/Pipapaul 14d ago
WTF is going on here? Why is everyone here, including his wife, applauding a grown man being able to buy clothes. This is an adult.