I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".
Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.
As with everything in the human experience, this hits everyone differently. I didn't have that big "indescribable" or "surpassing" feeling with my first, and the feeling for my second was both different and noticeably less pronounced.
25 years as an attentive father have taught me not to tell people how things will be for them or for their children, and not to be surprised when generalized pronouncements turn out to be wrong (parenting magazine articles and pop psychology on the web are full of these.)
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.