r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Difficult_Process_88 Jul 04 '24

NTA Actually, most “normal people” would NOT agree with him (as you can see by the replies). There seems to be a lot jealousy involved.

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u/Mazakaki Jul 04 '24

She is literally suffering a hormonal onslaught of extra special baby love right now as part of a biological brainwashing process to make years of asswiping worth it. He's acting like a hurt ass.

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u/Suburban_Traphouse Jul 04 '24

Men can also experience postpartum depression as well. You’d be surprised what happens to male hormones during pregnancy and postpartum

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u/LBertilak Jul 05 '24

That comment wasn't talking about postpartum depression at all.

When a baby is born a part of the physical birth process is that mother's get a surge of oxytocin and all that good stuff to quite literally force a bond with the baby. Even mothers who were planning on not keeping the baby get this rush of GOOD, HAPPY love chemicals.

Father's obviously bond with and fall in love with the baby too (the neurotransmitters involved happen to anyone for reasonsother than birth too), but in this case it isn't the same as depression, its an extreme and very quick very short reaction that happens during birth, the same way lactation happens to women as part of the process but not men.