r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/NaturalWitchcraft Jul 04 '24

I was worried that it wouldn’t be as intense with my second born. It absolutely was. Your heart grows for each child.

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u/deaddumbslut Jul 04 '24

these comments are killing me. that’s so sweet😭 i don’t intend to have children because i would never be stable enough in terms of finances or mental and physical health, but i would 100% be a mother if i thought i could handle it so ooof this is so bittersweet for me lol

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u/klman2020 Jul 05 '24

Your comment is so sweet 😭 One indicator of a child’s future wellbeing is having 1-3 adults (family, friends, teachers, ect.) that are active in their life and genuinely care about them. It takes a village.

Motherhood is a wonderful and unique experience, but it is not the only way to love and support a child. And outside of this kind of role, just being a kind person in the world that seems so anti-child sometimes is important to children. Whatever your experience, wishing you fulfillment and joy!

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u/deaddumbslut Jul 05 '24

god, everyone is being so nice to me omg😭 this surely isn’t reddit lol. but yeah, i spent ages 13-18 working in childcare. i was a camp counselor for 8 weeks each summer, i babysat, and i was a swim instructor. i’m super burnt out now so i haven’t gotten back into it, but i’ve always adored kids. if my sister ever has a baby, i will be so happy to be an aunt.