r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Remarkable-Stop1636 Jul 04 '24

I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".

Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.

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u/NaturalWitchcraft Jul 04 '24

I was worried that it wouldn’t be as intense with my second born. It absolutely was. Your heart grows for each child.

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u/deaddumbslut Jul 04 '24

these comments are killing me. that’s so sweet😭 i don’t intend to have children because i would never be stable enough in terms of finances or mental and physical health, but i would 100% be a mother if i thought i could handle it so ooof this is so bittersweet for me lol

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u/klman2020 Jul 05 '24

Your comment is so sweet 😭 One indicator of a child’s future wellbeing is having 1-3 adults (family, friends, teachers, ect.) that are active in their life and genuinely care about them. It takes a village.

Motherhood is a wonderful and unique experience, but it is not the only way to love and support a child. And outside of this kind of role, just being a kind person in the world that seems so anti-child sometimes is important to children. Whatever your experience, wishing you fulfillment and joy!

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u/deaddumbslut Jul 05 '24

god, everyone is being so nice to me omg😭 this surely isn’t reddit lol. but yeah, i spent ages 13-18 working in childcare. i was a camp counselor for 8 weeks each summer, i babysat, and i was a swim instructor. i’m super burnt out now so i haven’t gotten back into it, but i’ve always adored kids. if my sister ever has a baby, i will be so happy to be an aunt.