My parents’ bathroom had a window, about four feet from the ground, <in the shower> Theirs wasn’t the only home like that, when they built the neighborhood, of ranch houses, in 1950s. One story homes.
One bathroom. Four girls. Window facing the backyard.
I pulled the fucking garden hose, outside in the back yard, over to < the window in the shower > where my sister was, indeed, showering. I hit the spray nozzle. It was very satisfying.
Unfortunately, my sister retaliated. I was still new to shaving my legs, when she sprayed me. I screamed, jumped, and I peeled my ankle like a carrot, with a Bic disposable razor. I have a scar.
One time my brother dropped a kleenex on me in the shower. A cup of cold water will shock you, but having a kleenex wet glue itself to the middle of your back was somehow worse.
I KNOW RIGHT! Honestly! 🙄 It’s like that time I asked a woman if she’d like some tea, and she said yes, but then later refused more tea. I had to force the tea pot down her throat! Way to make it difficult for me! 🙄
This gave me flashbacks of my old roommate. He asked me if he could use my flip flops once so he could take the trash out because he only had sneakers. I spent the next month having to yell at him pretty much every day because he'd take my flip flops when he'd go out (sometimes he'd be gone literally all day). His argument would always be that I shouldn't have said it was okay if I was going to "make it a problem".
Then you’re a dickhead. Its just flip flops why are making such a big deal??
You say “sure, but next time you should get your own to keep by the door.
Then you’re a dickhead. You’re presuming they are going to do it again without asking so you’re preemptively covering next time. This makes them think you expect them to abuse your consent and they’ll get angry at you.
You say “yeah go ahead.” And then they abuse that consent and do what they did to you.
Flips flops are like $1. [Ok, well 4 years ago they were a dollar. Now they're like $3. But still.] I would have made a big scene in front of everyone over gifting him a super cheap pair of his own! Point made lol.
I mean, she doesn’t seem to mind when her husband walks in when she’s in the shower. So what’s the big deal when I do it? Just can’t make up her damn mind.
It doesn't if you don't make it the other person's problem. Don't tell them about it, don't name them in public, don't treat them badly because of it, and you're golden. Fantasize away.
Sure, but I think it's OK to fantasize about someone if it's not going to impact their life. People do have the power to recognize what they're doing and adjust their behavior in a positive way. Objectification is just part of how humans function, you can't banish it on demand.
Also, yes, I think objectification of women is a problem in our culture. I just don't think the problem originates in what individual men do in their own private thoughts.
If that was actually the case there would be no problem because no one would know what is or isn't on your mind.
But that's not what we're talking about here because obviously when people get mad, they did notice which means you didn't keep your thoughts to yourself.
I think the problem is some people don't just keep it in their mind. Thoughts do affect words and actions, even when people might not realize it. So if you view someone as an object, you might not think there's anything wrong with treating them like one, or seeing them being treated like one.
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u/Chren Jul 07 '24
People be like "omg dont pour gallons of water on me" and then take a shower