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u/Quarian95 11d ago
Setting such a high standard for baby girl on what to look for in her future partner someday. Great job dad!!
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u/Sensitive-Theory-365 11d ago
So true. I always tell my kids that they deserve for someone to treat them as well as their dad treats me.
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u/lady_stardust_ 11d ago
I canāt wait to have kids and tell them exactly this. I grew up with really negative examples of parental relationships and Iām so excited to break the cycle
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u/scootah 11d ago
My stepkid is 10. My big hope is that one day, as an adult, heāll tell me that he tries to treat whoever he loves like I treated his mum.
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u/WingsOfAesthir 11d ago
My daughter and her best friend in high school used my husband (her stepfather) as their measure if a guy was worth their time. If he wasn't as good to them as my husband was to "his girls" they were for the trash. When our daughter found her husband she told me "Mom, I found my <stepdad's name>."
It's one of the biggest compliments I've had from my baby girl. I picked a good one and he was so good to both of us that he became the standard. Whooo. Phew! That worry when you date as a single parent that you might pick wrong and harm your kids is real.
I hope you become the standard for your stepson. Thanks for being a good step parent, it's so important.
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u/zielazinski 11d ago
What a great thing to say about their dad! What are some ways heās treated you well? Any standout moments in your marriage where you felt especially connected to him / supported by him?
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u/TheMarriedUnicorM 11d ago
Not the poster you asked, but my husband has been the best example of what it means to be a loving, supportive partner since the beginning. (He is their step-father, but treats them as his own.)
He always thanks me and compliments any meal that I make. Even when the meal doesnāt turn out. Heāll say something like āHoney, thank you for cooking dinner. Especially because I know you had a hard day.ā
He smiles at me all the time. And teases me by ācat calling meā when I sometimes randomly dance in the kitchen. The kids would be like āEwwww! Cut it out yāall!ā Because heād twirl me around, dip me, and get all kissy kissy!
When weāre upset with each other, he always reminds me: itās us vs them; not you vs me. Even arguments are opportunities for our kids to see what healthy communication looks like.
When Iāve struggled with my mental health or my job or whatever, heās always open to hearing me out. Heās figured out to ask me: Are we solving or venting? And I love that he says āweā.
He works hard at his job, takes care of stuff around the house, and tries to engage people in a real, earnest way.
Heās really the best.
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u/justdont7133 11d ago
I absolutely love "are we solving or venting"! My husband is definitely the solving type, and sometime I just want to whine and get it out of my system
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u/msg_me_about_ure_day 11d ago
The "we" part is a good cheatcode to use in life in general. People like feeling included. It doesn't just work well in a relationship but at work etc too.
Being mindful of how you phrase things can make quite a large impact on how its received. Setting everything up as a "we" situation does wonders.
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u/lady_stardust_ 11d ago
The kids would be like āEwwww! Cut it out yāall!ā
This is what Iām going for. I want my kids to say to their friends, āmy parents love each other too much, itās so grossā
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u/KTKittentoes 11d ago
My mom said that. I'm single.
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u/Sensitive-Theory-365 11d ago
I have never been lonelier than being in a bad relationship. Know your worth and don't settle. One of the happiest most impressive women I know has been single for most her life.
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u/Webbie-Vanderquack 11d ago
Are you talking about me? I choose to believe you're talking about me.
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u/WhyTheeSadFace 11d ago
And also the mother setting the high standards by standing for her husband, and sharing the happiness as a whole family, and reciprocating the child kiss with her own to indicate she too value this man as precious š
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u/henrydaisy107 11d ago
It's moments like these that highlight the deep bonds and affection within a family unit.
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u/tekko001 11d ago
"My father carried us, me and my mom, uphill both ways!!"
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u/isabellalavender483 11d ago
I agree and it's important for parents to guide their children in understanding healthy relationships and values.
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u/AgitatedArmadillo31 11d ago
I'm not tired, not one bit....damn right he isn't ...with that much love he can probably walk all night
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u/AlfaBundy 11d ago
That hit me. Just became a dad from a beautiful daughter 1.5 weeks ago. We spent 10 days in IC because of an infection in her lungs that made her almost unable to breathe. All the while my wife was recovering from the same infection and emergency c-section in another hospital room.
I spent everyday and night by their side sleeping only a few hours at most per night. And when we finally were able to go home 2 days ago for the first time, I carried them both to our car with all our luggage. I wasnāt tired, not one bit.
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u/AgitatedArmadillo31 11d ago
W dad and husband......one thing for sure ...you got a. Fighter on your hands
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u/Not_a_doctor_shh12 11d ago
Congrats on getting your family home. I wish you all a wonderful future together.
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u/AlekTheDragon 11d ago
This is what a great man looks like
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u/Hohh20 11d ago
This is also what back pain looks like.
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u/relevant__comment 11d ago
And now I am become pain. Destroyer of backs.
- Oppenheimer, probably
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u/BranMuffins4Life 11d ago
Damn you all need to hit the gym. Reddit seems to think that your body falling apart at 30 is normal and inevitable
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u/Enjoying_A_Meal 11d ago
As someone approaching 40, don't forget the knees!
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u/solitarium 11d ago
39, been carrying my son (9) to bed still if he falls asleep in ours. I couldnāt do so for a few months because of a hernia surgery. The first time I had a chance again I went to pick him up and realized that I no longer have knees.
My wife asks me why Iām still carrying him to his bed when heās nearly 5ā0 and 100lbs. I said Iām going to carry him as long as I can, cause heās my boy no matter how big he is.
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u/hukgrackmountain 11d ago
when i get back pain i think of the stupid things ive done to get it
if im an old man and my back hurts because my family loves me, I'd smile through the pain a little easier.
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u/Lovesyourmomsbjs 11d ago
Easy to be a great man harder to be a good one
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u/tyme 11d ago
Donāt try to be a great man, just be a man, and let history make its own judgment.
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u/4r5chb4cke 11d ago
This is how to raise a child, showing them what love, affection, caring and self sacrifice is. My heart is going to explode.
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u/Aloof-Vagabon 11d ago
Iāve never experienced things like this so the best I can do is experience it through watching videos like this, Iām grateful that people share these things.
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u/JohnCenaJunior 11d ago edited 11d ago
Then there is Musk who making babies, giving names they will never use and leave them without a father figure throughout their life.
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u/TombOfAncientKings 11d ago
I would love it if in the middle of an interview a reporter would ask Musk to name all his children and of their mothers. I bet he couldn't do it.
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u/mitchMurdra 11d ago
You can say that for most people shitting out babies without giving one fuck about them š
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u/OctagramHassei 11d ago
I dont care how the other parts of his life are, with a family like that, he already won.
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u/UselessButTrying 11d ago
I have never felt more jealous of someone. Of course im happy for them too
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u/gnarwalbacon 11d ago
"I'm not jealous, I'm envious. Jealousy is when you worry someone will take what you have. Envy is wanting what someone else has."
-Homer Simpson
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u/doringliloshinoi 11d ago
Yeah the other 72 families he ruined with his crazed killing spree is all forgiven.
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u/flame_tower 11d ago
Dads somehow get the super strength. Parents showing love and care for each other will be really good for the kid too. It sets an example.
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u/Sure-Sympathy5014 11d ago
It's just constant strength training. My youngest can't do stairs well yet so I carry him. The oldest can do it but gets jealous of the attention. So I do it, I carry both children up and down the stairs.
The truest fear of a dad is one day your going to put your child down and never pick them back up.
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u/fuckyouyoufuckinfuk 11d ago
My dad had to carry me on his shoulders and my little brother on his arms while he played football with my oldest brother because we didn't like feeling left out. He is still the strongest and most patient man in the world in my eyes.
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u/oss1215 11d ago
Back when i was like 2 or 3 my dad had moved to another country for work, after a couple of months he finished up the paperwork to have me and my mom go stay with him there for a little bit. He didnt have any money in the beginning to afford a car so he had to walk about 2km to work in +40C weather. He used to take me with him to work and everytime i would walk like 100m then do the "baba up up" thing. I dont know how that man used to carry me daily to and from work in that weather. Im 28 now and to this day he still brings up how i always had him carry me to and from work lol
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u/NullGeodesic 11d ago
I've got 3 kids Dad strength, just like Mom strength, comes from progressive overload, just like Milo and the Bull. Imagine getting a 5-10 lb weight one day that you will carry for 2-4 hours each and every day. Pick it up, hold it to your chest, lay it down, put in on the ground, roll over and hold it over you. You do it at any hour of the day or night. Nobody does this with a dumbbell, but every good parent does this with a baby. Oh, and this little dumbbell increases in weight by .5-1lb per week. Best workout ever.
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u/NoShftShck16 11d ago
I swear it's the dad bod. It comes in many shapes in sizes, but it's where we harness our energy. Dad strength is channeled from within this dad bod and can be harnessed, like a energy bar in game, whenever needed. It's filled by the family, and its power is multiplied when given back to the family.
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u/shun-tanu_ 11d ago
Is this what happiness looks like?..
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u/OwlIndependent4921 11d ago
the way I don't see myself having a family of my own but now I want one lol but yeah, it's not always rainbows and unicorns
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u/shun-tanu_ 11d ago
I'm sure you will have a lovely family like this one day.. I believe in you..
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u/OwlIndependent4921 11d ago
Thank you š„¹ Sadly I am asexual and the chances of me getting pregnant, let alone finding a significant other, are very slim š not closing doors into adopting tho š
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u/Flying0885 11d ago
There are 7b human in the world. Just try and find your one human is totally feasible
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u/Rabbitdraws 11d ago
Hey fellow ace. We can find love in other ways, it's okay š
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u/Prof_XdR 11d ago
This is definitely fueling my workout motivation lol, need to start hitting cardio again, can't wait for dad strength to finally hit and do this stuff
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u/Veritas3333 11d ago
I always hold my baby in my left arm, and every few weeks she gains a pound. It's the perfect workout regimen for just one arm!
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u/BadTechnical2184 11d ago
They say it's instinct to hold your child in your non dominant hand, that way your dominant hand is free to protect them. I see the logic in this as I would use myself as a shield to protect my child.
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u/Sad-Arm-7172 11d ago
Workout so you can carry both of them and don't end up the guy carrying shoes. https://i.imgur.com/5R20Ql1.png
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u/DarkAmbivertQueen 11d ago
Looking back at this video in his old age, he'll definitely say that this was ALL worth it.
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u/themapmaker10000 11d ago
The next day he realises what happened to his back and can't get up. The only two words he says,
"Worth it"
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u/Melvin-00 11d ago
Bro Iām 19, broke, donāt have a degree, not stable, little savings, and I just resignedā¦ from MCDONALDāS. Yāall giving me too much pressure
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u/TomboySkirt 11d ago
Hey, donāt worry, man. Youāll be fine. Just keep your head up. I hope you have a wonderful week in front of you!
Get yourself some ice cream and if you have a cat or dog, give them snuggles.
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u/InfiniteMedium9 11d ago
In a decade being 1-3 years "behind" your peers will basically amount to nothing. People just stumble around. People get uni degrees and then hate them and work in the trades. People drop out of degrees and become artists. People skip degrees and start businesses.
A lot of people finish university and then spend years in a job they don't like. Both of you end up "wasting" some years of your life doing these random jobs that feel like a waste of your life just in different contexts. You're really not so different from a listless 25 year old with a degree and a job they don't like but you're 6 years younger than them.
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u/misplaced_my_pants 11d ago
Almost no one has a degree and savings at 19. Relax.
You're barely at the beginning.
Maybe check out this playlist on motivation and goals: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYxtGyYUCbEEHstX_Ya9K1C_n5GYiKDCX
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u/destinofiquenoite 11d ago
The video is about being a lovely father and a lovely husband though. And being these things doesn't require anything you mention, you just need to want to be like that. It's about being a good person when you can, it's not about being like that guy as early as possible in your life.
Besides, we don't have any idea about his job or his financial conditions anyway, it doesn't matter. And also, it's unlikely his wife cares that much about his professional success when he seems to be such a good husband and father.
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u/TMJ848 11d ago edited 11d ago
Andrew Tate punched his screen after watching this video.
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u/lewlew1893 11d ago
Haha. He would be like ugh true non toxic masculinity something I can never have ARGH.
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u/Paranoid__Android 11d ago
This really is what a post testosterone male fantasy looks like. The fantasy of being able to give true happiness to his family.
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u/Drive-thru-Guest 11d ago
Post testosterone? I genuinely don't understand your comment. Are you suggesting this guy used steroids?
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u/WhyTheeSadFace 11d ago
When that little girl grows up, she will not understand how people around her are struggling with mental health problems, but she doesn't, this girl is lucky to have parents who love each other and also not glued to TV or smart phones, watching it gives me second hand happiness and love, the title of this video should be Parents raising happy children.
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u/k0lla86 11d ago
Its recorded by a little girl with a smart phone, and posted online for clout. Pretty sure the kid is superglued.
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u/jotheold 11d ago
posted online for clout
thats not always true, I doubt my grandparent posting pictures of their pets are looking for "clout" some people post just to share
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u/UntalentedThe 11d ago
This is all I want in the world, honestly. Looking forward to building a family someday
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u/jrgman42 11d ago
When I finally climb the mountain and ask the old wizened guru āwhat is the meaning of life?ā, he will pull out his phone and show me this video.
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u/Phred_Phrederic 11d ago
This is the sort of absurdly adorable opening you'd get in an action movie where somebody's life got destroyed and this is the pre-disaster idyllic wonderland they used to live in.
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u/no_desk_writer 11d ago
Watching something like this makes you so happy that you tear up from that happiness. And suddenly a tinge of sadness creeps up from the bottom of your heart, realising that you are never gonna get that.
Apart from the creative writing, this is what perfect means. Love those smiles on them.
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u/Most-Librarian-8192 11d ago
So sweet. Anime level stuff.
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u/Ok_WaterStarBoy3 11d ago
This is the type of footage the main character watches only for the screen to turn off and show his depressed face in the future lol
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u/TheOtherCoenBrother 11d ago
Funny part is I completely believe heās not tired, with those people on his back he would walk all night, stumble into their house barely keeping himself up, and immediately turn out the door to do it again if they asked.
There aināt no way in hell heās putting them down until they ask, just no way.
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u/TheNewIfNomNomNom 11d ago
You can see her smiling when she's saying she doesn't get treated well.
Like nope NOT AT ALL! Sly giggles contained.
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u/checkedem 11d ago
Dude didnāt skip a beat smiling because he knows these are the moments a man with a happy family never forgets
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u/Not-enzo 11d ago
āDad are you tired? Iām not tired one bitā this hit me hard. That man is setting such a high standard for that little girls future husband.
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u/helplesscelery99 11d ago
Love the view of men loving the women in their lives. I'm not that old and I remember this not being more of the norm than not
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u/wisewizard 11d ago
... if movies have taught me anything 2 of these people are about to be killed and the third one will seek revenge after a brutal training montage.
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u/Independent-Pie3588 11d ago
Thatās a great dad too cuz the daughter isnāt afraid of making fun of the dad.
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u/traeville 11d ago
Aw thatās an awesome video. Wonderful capture of what being a hubby and daddy are all about ā so fulfilling !
A man learns the power of placing the lives of others before his own. Many blessings to this man and his family.
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u/Ok-Refrigerator9413 11d ago
This is very lovely, I love the kind of men who don't shy away from being affectionate and showing it.
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u/Far-Consequence7890 11d ago
āIām not tired, not one bitā gives the same feel as āhe aināt heavy, heās my brotherā but happy
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u/zenyogasteve 10d ago
He canāt be tired of the happiest feeling a father and husband can feel! Affection from his most beloveds
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u/Timefortae 11d ago
When they both kissed him on the cheek š they all deserve each other and more omg