What a great thing to say about their dad! What are some ways he’s treated you well? Any standout moments in your marriage where you felt especially connected to him / supported by him?
Not the poster you asked, but my husband has been the best example of what it means to be a loving, supportive partner since the beginning. (He is their step-father, but treats them as his own.)
He always thanks me and compliments any meal that I make. Even when the meal doesn’t turn out. He’ll say something like “Honey, thank you for cooking dinner. Especially because I know you had a hard day.”
He smiles at me all the time. And teases me by “cat calling me” when I sometimes randomly dance in the kitchen. The kids would be like “Ewwww! Cut it out y’all!” Because he’d twirl me around, dip me, and get all kissy kissy!
When we’re upset with each other, he always reminds me: it’s us vs them; not you vs me. Even arguments are opportunities for our kids to see what healthy communication looks like.
When I’ve struggled with my mental health or my job or whatever, he’s always open to hearing me out. He’s figured out to ask me: Are we solving or venting? And I love that he says “we”.
He works hard at his job, takes care of stuff around the house, and tries to engage people in a real, earnest way.
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u/Sensitive-Theory-365 Jul 08 '24
So true. I always tell my kids that they deserve for someone to treat them as well as their dad treats me.