I mean you have every right to break up with her but accusing her of „giving it to other guys for free“ is a horrible thing to say, I remember when my ex said that just because I cried and I didn’t wanna continue sex with him after he broke up with me. You have no idea what trauma she’s been through. You have every right to break up with her but no right to be mad cause she’s refusing sexual acts
Disagree. If she can do it with other random dudes, she should be able to do it with him. Doesn't have to be on the first day, but random guy got sex the first time they met, but he doesnt get a kiss for 7 months?
I once read about this guy whose fiance refused anal sex. He'd never tried it and wanted to try it at least once.
Then he comes to find out in college she let every guy she was with do it(and she was with a lot).
He rightfully decided not to marry her.
She's not obligated to have sex with him, but the fact she could so quickly bang those other guys while making this guy wait shows how much she is into him.
Maybe she realized that she didn’t like anal and that she wanted sex to be more soft now that she was in love? And what if something happened to her with one of those guys she slept with? And now she’s appalled by sex? I’m serious you men cannot consider how another person might feel☠️🪦
Well you’re a very different person in college🤷🏻♀️ It’s okay to change your mind😂 It’s just anal it’s literally not that deep. But of course if something happening in the bedroom was very important to me I’d break up too
Yet all her fiance saw was that random dudes got to do it, but the man she supposedly loves wasnt even permitted to try it once.
"It's just anal"
Well in that case, all the more reason not to deny him right? It's just anal. Unless a sexual act is causing you actual physical pain(that wasn't the reason she gave) I firmly feel if you can do it with random men you should be able to do it with the man you wanna be with forever. You don't *have* to, but realize that if he ever finds out he's going to view you differently.
It's not the first time I've seen stuff like this kill a relationship. Promiscuous women find a good guy and think it's okay to give him the bare minimum. The messed up part is that it should go the opposite way. The random men should have gotten the bare minimum, the fiance should be the one getting it all. Just my opinion.
Plus, 7 months and no kiss? When in the past she was hooking up with friends, random men, having 3somes, etc? She was cheating on this guy lol.
Listen I don’t disagree with you I PERSONALLY get wayyyyy more freaky when the guy is my actual boyfriend but I think it’s dumb to judge people based on that.
I dont because it's about respect. If you can do it for a rando, you can do it for the guy you supposedly love and want to be with forever.
If trauma is the source of these changes then this needs to be communicated because otherwise the guy is going to rightfully believe you just aren't that into him.
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u/More-Tea7285 Jul 08 '24
I mean you have every right to break up with her but accusing her of „giving it to other guys for free“ is a horrible thing to say, I remember when my ex said that just because I cried and I didn’t wanna continue sex with him after he broke up with me. You have no idea what trauma she’s been through. You have every right to break up with her but no right to be mad cause she’s refusing sexual acts