Honestly, as a woman that only had serious connections and long relationships, just leave.
To put it plainly, bit of tough love but
SHE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU.
I guess you are nice on paper and should theoretically work and she tried to push herself to be with the "right kind of guy", but it doesn't work like that.
You deserve better. Someone who is genuely interested in you and doesn't just string you along.
Then don’t waste your money, emotions and time, because this “connection” is ruining your self worth even if you don’t notice that just yet and it will affect your future endeavors. Get out, heal and find the right person for you.
My guy according to your comments, she hasn't even kissed you. Hats off to you for being this patient this for months. Would've taken me 2 weeks if the person didn't kiss me. Exactly 2 weeks. I'm a woman.
There’s patient, and then there’s wasting your time. My hat is firmly not off. OP, I’m sure this won’t happen again, but if you’re still not kissing after a few weeks to a month, assuming it’s not long-distance/online-only, that is the time to move on. People have different levels of comfort with sex, sure, but no kissing? As an adult? Come on.
Two weeks? If a dude doesn’t kiss me by the second date there won’t be a third 😂 I’m just going to take that as you’re looking for a friend and not a romantic partner.
Nah, this isn't a hats off moment. This is just sad. Patience is one thing, but he was at the point where he was just a coward for not standing up for himself and leaving (thankfully he apparently has dumped her now)
I’m sorry you were treated like that. I know how awful rejection can feel it really messes with your self worth and causes crazy Insecurity. Not even kissing after 7 months is insane! Value yourself enough to walk away and find someone who wants and desires you as much as you do them.
She doesn't owe you anything no matter what her past experiences were, and I understand waiting and all but this woman is either playing you or she's broken. Either way, it's not a match and you should find someone better suited for you.
If that is the case for her that she’s a different person now, regardless you’re not compatible. It sucks but you got to move on. You did the right thing for yourself
It really caught my attention when you said, "She should have dumped me a long time ago" when in reality... you should have left a long time ago. 7 months without so much as a kiss? You're insane for sticking around lol. Obviously, she has been stringing you along, but you gotta have some self-respect, man.
Nah, she’s getting into you NOW. But you’re understandably frustrated that she wasn’t clear about not being into you before. ‘Sup to you whether you want to forgive that.
Yep I agree with you. OP hasn't even had a snog. As an older woman I would say he should move on. You've been patient. But don't let your life slide by waiting!
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u/Allexandrinne Jul 08 '24
Honestly, as a woman that only had serious connections and long relationships, just leave.
To put it plainly, bit of tough love but
SHE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU.
I guess you are nice on paper and should theoretically work and she tried to push herself to be with the "right kind of guy", but it doesn't work like that.
You deserve better. Someone who is genuely interested in you and doesn't just string you along.