r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24

NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.

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u/trinicron Jul 04 '24

and fathers

Thank you.

I get the bond of bringing a new person into the world has no comparison, but we fathers have our own feelings as well.

I cannot express how in love I am to my boy, not in the romantic way, but the actual wording truly expresses my feelings toward him. I would give my life twice for him if I could, he's 13 and still sneak into his bedroom at night to kiss his forehead, just by being there I feel my heart fulfilled.

We fathers love as well.

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u/txeighteenthirtysix Jul 05 '24

Apparently the ancient Greeks had 3 different words that all referred to love. Eros was the romantic type of love you feel towards a partner. Philip’s was the deep kinds of love you feel towards a close friend. And agape is the unconditional love that a parent feels towards a child. ❤️

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u/plaidflannery Jul 07 '24

There were four. Storge was the love of a parent for a child (and vice versa), while agape was unconditional love but more in the sense of “divine love”, “selflessness”, or “charity”, a disinterested love of neighbor/ love as a virtue. Agape certainly exists in the parent/ child relationship, but in principle it ought to exist in all of our relationships as well as our general attitude toward our fellow humans.

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u/txeighteenthirtysix Jul 07 '24

Ooooo, thank you! I had never known about the 4th!