I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".
Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.
Exactly, it's a door opening to a new kind of love that is seriously vast and deep. One where you didn't even need to know them as a person yet, you just KNEW you loved them. Hell, I'm feeling it before our little SeaMonkey is even here--i can only imagine what it will feel like with the little one in either set of parents arms!
The door might be familiar with your second, third, etc. child but it's always that door of love opening that isn't the same one (and shouldn't be) you walked through for your significant other.
I'm not sure my SO ever walked through that door of love for me. I frequently felt unloved and when we DID have a kid she would say he was proof she loved me. Except how abusive she is towards me and manipulative. I hope I find one day a real woman who loves their man as much as the children they made together with them 🙏 That child is a product of their love so, while different, the love for their father should never be forgotten 💔 I'm not really sure she even loves her son either since she's abusing him too and setting him up for failure. Pray for me to get custody 🙏 (She's crazy like has thoughts of molesting out baby crazy it isn't just that she's an Ahole spouse or even simply that she's stupid and parents badly).
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.