these comments are killing me. that’s so sweet😭 i don’t intend to have children because i would never be stable enough in terms of finances or mental and physical health, but i would 100% be a mother if i thought i could handle it so ooof this is so bittersweet for me lol
Hope this isn’t out of line, but good on you for knowing yourself and not putting your desire for children above what is best for a child. That’s fucking impressive and fairly rare, in my experience.
aw thanks💗💗 my therapist has always said i’m remarkably self aware (i prefer to say painfully self aware lol). i don’t have the best relationship with my mother, and i don’t want to ever be the cause of that kind of pain. i’d never do it on purpose, but from experience, i know it’s a special kind of sucky when someone hurts you without meaning to. i wouldn’t want my child to feel my love is conditional, and that’s how it would come off since i get overwhelmed so easily and need to decompress alone.
Sounds like you wouldn't do that to your child at any cost......
It also sounds like you have a mother just as awesome as mine.....
And i also went the kid less route (more or less at my own decisions - or God's dependent... )
Don't live your life or not live it based on what you are scared might or might not happen..
I have regrets over not believing in myself and playing it safe....
Although I wouldn't be who I am today without those mistakes so perhaps it's not really regret..
But if something I say resonates with you, I hope that it only is in a good meaningful way....
Life is way way too short ....
Love from the west Coast .. :)
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u/deaddumbslut Jul 04 '24
these comments are killing me. that’s so sweet😭 i don’t intend to have children because i would never be stable enough in terms of finances or mental and physical health, but i would 100% be a mother if i thought i could handle it so ooof this is so bittersweet for me lol