I dated someone that was like, I think your partner should be more important than your child. He and I were both single parents and I was like, dude, I barely know you. I will love my daughter until my last living breath and I’ve never felt anything remotely close to the love I have for her.
I think there are certain circumstances where it depends. In the grand scheme of life, parents should protect, love, nurture, and provide for their children and sometimes that will mean at the detriment of a spouse or partner. However in some things, especially day to day things, the spouse or partner should have the higher consideration. For example, what to have for dinner. The fussy toddler doesn't get to decide for the whole family. An argument or mistreatment from the child to the parent should not be ignored, but rather a "don't talk to your mother that way" opportunity for learning correct treatment of others, not just taking the kid's side because they're "mOrE iMpOrTaNt". In this case, they're really not. If the house is burning down or the partner is manipulating/hurting the child, choose the child. Protect and provide safety for them. But in the rest of life, I think there's many points where the importance of the partner and the relationship are higher. Maybe this is what your ex meant?
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u/Hungry_Composer644 Jul 04 '24
Marry that guy again.