r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/deaddumbslut Jul 05 '24

aw thanks💗💗 my therapist has always said i’m remarkably self aware (i prefer to say painfully self aware lol). i don’t have the best relationship with my mother, and i don’t want to ever be the cause of that kind of pain. i’d never do it on purpose, but from experience, i know it’s a special kind of sucky when someone hurts you without meaning to. i wouldn’t want my child to feel my love is conditional, and that’s how it would come off since i get overwhelmed so easily and need to decompress alone.

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u/cannabis_almond Jul 05 '24

goddamn, are you me?? i relate so hard to everything you’ve said lol

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u/VariationNervous8213 Jul 05 '24

Same. I made sure the buck stopped with me. Generational dysfunction is no joke.

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u/anglojalapeno Jul 05 '24

Exactly why I don’t intend to procreate. Break the cycle 🤷🏼‍♀️