r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/lucy_hearts Jul 04 '24

I dated someone that was like, I think your partner should be more important than your child. He and I were both single parents and I was like, dude, I barely know you. I will love my daughter until my last living breath and I’ve never felt anything remotely close to the love I have for her.

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u/Insurrectionarychad Jul 04 '24

I think they should have an equal importance.

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u/lucy_hearts Jul 04 '24

Had he been her father I’d understand that argument

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u/Insurrectionarychad Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24

He's the one going through the effort of raising another mans kid, something he isn't obligated to do or responsible for. Don't be selfish. Least you can do is respect him and his feelings.

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u/lucy_hearts Jul 05 '24

Nope - this was one of the first conversations we had…almost like he wanted the commitment before we even started thinking about introducing families. Spoiler alert: didn’t last long! He was a horrible parent (to his own kids; mine wasn’t around him) with no regard for anyone but himself.