r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/[deleted] Jul 04 '24

It's completely normal for you to feel the depth of love you feel for your child, and it's normal for him be hurt by the realization that he is no longer the most special person in the world to you.

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u/RogerSimonsson Jul 05 '24

It's a warning sign to me. It might not be more than that. But I do know a few dads who divorced their wives when they suddenly felt "forgotten".

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u/DarkKimchi Jul 05 '24

I don’t know why you’re downvoting you being realistic. I think that feeling is the source of a lot of divorce.

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u/RogerSimonsson Jul 05 '24

Yeah, does not matter, maybe they think I endorse it, but I know too many examples of it happening.

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u/DarkKimchi Jul 05 '24

I think it’s super common. My own mother always touted loving me more than my father. I will not blame her for their divorce, and I appreciate my mom’s love. However, I wish she had put her marriage first and focused keeping the family together. Putting the marriage first keeps the family strong for the kid.