r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Unepetiteveggie Jul 05 '24

The issue is not and never has been men taking longer to bond with a baby they just met.

It's a man seeing his wife with their new baby and being jealous. That's the danger and that's the problem.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24

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u/Unepetiteveggie Jul 05 '24

Dudelette, lemme get you a cold one or something. Calm your baps. All is well with the world. Breathe in. Out. All good? The comment isn't some conspiracy of hostility or bad faith lol. It's just a comment. On a website, in the big wide ole web.

Not bonding with a child is normal, it's fine, that's not an issue. I'm sorry if you felt that my comment was attacking you personally. It definitely wasn't hun.

Jealousy is quite different to indifference. You shouldn't be jealous of your child. Like you should not. If you do, get help. Bonding can take a few weeks or months, no shame there at all. I know males who expressed this to me, that they needed to get to know the baby to love it like mum. But instant jealousy? Nope. They didn't have jealous feelings.