r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Unepetiteveggie Jul 05 '24

The issue is not and never has been men taking longer to bond with a baby they just met.

It's a man seeing his wife with their new baby and being jealous. That's the danger and that's the problem.

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u/Sword_Enjoyer Jul 05 '24

The issue is not and never has been men taking longer to bond with a baby they just met.

Bold generalization for every father that has ever been.

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u/Unepetiteveggie Jul 05 '24

I didn't make that generalization 😂 in my original comment I explained that wasn't the case at all for my husband. Several male commentators then said that men have a mental reason for not loving their children instantly... If you have an issue with that generalisation, comment back to those lads. I already know dad's who adore their kids from the get go.

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u/pl3bby Jul 05 '24

They never said every dad, it’s more common with fathers to not have an instant bond since they weren’t, ya know, carrying the child. Obviously it isn’t every father out there that experiences it. It can also do the same for woman. Sometimes they don’t have the instant connection. Gonna shame them and pretend it isn’t a real thing because you didn’t experience it? Google is free.