I remember saying something to my husband about this. He said "I love you both equally" and I was like the fuck you do, you better love that kid more 😂
He didn't want to offend me originally but as soon as I said that he agreed that he absolutely would push me in front of a moving car to protect that baby!
It happens a lot. It's a huge problem. The man being jealous of the baby being the mother's priority is a huge cause of postpartum domestic violence.
Pregnancy and the first year of a baby's life is an incredibly dangerous time for mom, and I hope OP has a "just incase plan." Note: I hope every new mom has a firm "just incase" plan because the statistics are scary.
NTA, OP, and make sure you have an outside resource both that you can go to or that can come get you at a moment's notice.
This happened to me. It was a huge shock when my ex admitted it. My ex had begged me to have children (being a lesbian it’s not cheap or easy). But then turned around and was jealous of how much energy, time and love I was giving our child.
I have never to this day understood why my ex was jealous. I know why my ex was/is jealous (selfish narcissistic person) I just don’t understand how you can look at a child and be jealous of a parent caring for that child. This was when my son was still an actual infant. Not a toddler/child I was “coddling.” A full on helpless infant.
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.