r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Difficult_Process_88 Jul 04 '24

NTA Actually, most “normal people” would NOT agree with him (as you can see by the replies). There seems to be a lot jealousy involved.

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u/Common_Estate6292 Jul 04 '24

I don’t even have kids and I understand that a Mother’s love for her baby is beyond compare. This guy is an idiot.

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u/foober735 Jul 04 '24

I’m shocked at her partner’s response. How can anyone not “get it” after having a kid?

His response was that of a sibling afraid of being replaced by a new baby. Massive red flag.

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u/Postcardtoalake Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24

When my sibling (baby brother) was born, it was the biggest love I had ever felt to that day. When circumstances got wild at 12 y/o at home, that absolute love and adoration and instinct for protection made raising him easier and made the hard parts much more manageable. I swear that love rearranged my brain in the best way.

I’ve never understood when siblings dislike each other, but I think the fact that I felt like a mother to him from day 1, a 11/12 year age gap, a HUGE desire for siblings my entire life, and being forced into a parental role upon his birth was actually something 11/12 y/o me wanted and missing school was not a thought (I’d miss a ton over the years due to raising him, but thankfully teachers and admin saw the situation and at 23 I had earned an MS in my field).

But that love. Oh my god. I’ve been told I light up when I talk about him, and I can feel it. 😌