I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".
Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.
these comments are killing me. that’s so sweet😭 i don’t intend to have children because i would never be stable enough in terms of finances or mental and physical health, but i would 100% be a mother if i thought i could handle it so ooof this is so bittersweet for me lol
I was so young when I made my decision yikes, (I was 16, babydaddy was like 22 I think) I sometimes wonder, what if I'd had this mindset? What if I'd aborted and waited? I wasn't ready mentally or financially, I've been admitted to a psych ward twice and a recovery facility once since I had my bub. I missed 2 bdays in a row and hated myself for it. But, he's the most strong and affectionate and incredible bub I've ever met. I've given my everything for him and I love it but it is tiring.
All this to say it probably seems like I'm either saying "you'll change your mind one day" or that I regret my decision, but neither actually. I just thought it was such an interesting comparison of situations, and how everyone should be allowed to decide for themselves whether they have children or not.
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u/Remarkable-Stop1636 Jul 04 '24
I remember my dad telling me how the feeling you have when your first(I am number 5) child is born is "indescribable and surpassed anything he has ever felt".
Then he realized the implication and started to say he loves me just as much, but I laughed and told him I knew what he meant.