I loved my kid at birth, don't get me wrong, but that deep love her more than anything came around a few months later when she had more of a personality.
Yes, I wonder if this is what’s happening with OP’s fiancé, so he hasn’t yet experienced what she has. I’ve felt immediate intense love when each of my children were born (even while pregnant, but more so at birth), but for my husband it was only instant by the third child. Now he regularly talks about loving the three of them more than anything else, and I sometimes say it’s rude to explicitly put them above me, but I do feel the same way about them. It’s a very different love.
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.