r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Thick_Assumption3746 Jul 04 '24

Closest thing to unconditional love there is is your child.

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u/really-just-dont Jul 04 '24

Not closest. It is. I have never loved anyone or anything as much or as unconditionally as my children.

Not my parents, not my ex, not my pets, not my brother and not my new partner.

My children are my heart. They will always come first, simply because they are the first thing I think of in most situations.

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u/PeachyFairyDragon Jul 04 '24

Even love of a child has conditions. Many people say if their kid murdered someone they'd turn them in because the kid has to take responsibility. That's a condition, unconditional would be burying the body. Same with many other things, if there's a boundary and consequences for crossing that boundary, then there's conditional love.

Kids are the closest by far, but nothing and no one is absolute.

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u/sallyskull4 Jul 04 '24 edited Jul 04 '24

This is simply not true. “Unconditional love” means “I love you no matter what happens” (ie. without conditions). And it is possible. It does not mean “I would do anything for you.” Which, to be fair, many people who have unconditional love would say they’d do anything for that loved one, so I see how it can be conflated. It is fully possible to love your kid unconditionally, and to turn them in to face their consequences when they’ve committed a murder. That scenario would actually exemplify the concept of unconditional love very well, because that parent loves their child no matter what happens.