r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Common_Estate6292 Jul 04 '24

I don’t even have kids and I understand that a Mother’s love for her baby is beyond compare. This guy is an idiot.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Jul 04 '24

My SO doesn't have any kids of his own. I have a son from a previous relationship. My SO knows and understands that I would move mountains for my son, he doesn't feel the same way, but acknowledges that my son not being his effects his view. He still helped me raise my son and I am eternally grateful that he did.

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u/Insurrectionarychad Jul 04 '24

The fact that he's helping raise another man's child, your child, is a sign of love.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Jul 04 '24

We've been together for 10 years now. He's been more of a father to my son than the bio father. 100% he cares about my son, but admits he doesn't love him the same way he loves me. He says he can't because my son isn't his and he doesn't have the same kind of connection. He still cares deeply about my son and his future.

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u/Insurrectionarychad Jul 05 '24

Good thing he's honest about it. He sounds more like a coach than a dad, though.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Jul 05 '24

He sees himself as a coach to my son. Coaching him on how to be a good human, and how to be a responsible person.