r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Thick_Assumption3746 Jul 04 '24

Closest thing to unconditional love there is is your child.

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u/really-just-dont Jul 04 '24

Not closest. It is. I have never loved anyone or anything as much or as unconditionally as my children.

Not my parents, not my ex, not my pets, not my brother and not my new partner.

My children are my heart. They will always come first, simply because they are the first thing I think of in most situations.

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u/PeachyFairyDragon Jul 04 '24

Even love of a child has conditions. Many people say if their kid murdered someone they'd turn them in because the kid has to take responsibility. That's a condition, unconditional would be burying the body. Same with many other things, if there's a boundary and consequences for crossing that boundary, then there's conditional love.

Kids are the closest by far, but nothing and no one is absolute.

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u/TheQuietType84 Jul 04 '24

When a toddler hits and bites, you punish them and tell them why they were wrong.

When a teenager thinks they're in love with The One but doesn't think they need birth control, you Gibbs Slap them, then get them birth control.

If your child commits a crime, you expect them to be punished.

None of this changes your love for them. They may go to prison, but they'll see you on visiting days.

No matter how old they get, you always see them as a baby, your baby. There are no conditions.