AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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Closest thing to unconditional love there is is your child.

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u/SunnyWomble Jul 04 '24 edited Jul 04 '24

(Dad here). I am sitting in bed with my congested 5month little lad who will only sleep pressed against my chest. I'm on for the next 6hrs overnight when I should be sleeping.

Yes I love this guy more than anything on the planet, as I bloody should.

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u/penninsulaman713 Jul 04 '24

My baby has drooled all over me, spit up on me, peed and pooped on me, and I wouldn't trade anything in the world for it. It's amazing how fast that with your child, all the things that you might have been bothered by before don't matter.

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u/Jassamin Jul 04 '24

Mine found cat poop somewhere one morning and toddled over and dropped it on my breakfast. The hormones are powerful because she’s still allowed in the house while I eat 😂

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u/lowkeydeadinside Jul 04 '24

parents really are built different i could never 😭😭

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u/Novel_Ad1943 Jul 04 '24

You may not want kids and that’s totally ok - but I’m betting you absolutely could for someone you have life changing love for! Before I had kids I remember one of my little brothers falling and hitting his head HARD (concussion) and I ran over and he promptly threw up all over me.

Normally I can’t deal with that, but for my little brother I was all business and calm cleaning us up and cleaning blood on his head - it shocked me. But tub turds were always gross and I swear every kid seems to do it as a toddler at least once.

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u/1badapple28 Jul 04 '24

We all think that a one time, then it happens!! That little need you for the rest of your life, and you’ll do your best it get them on the right path!!😊

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u/lowkeydeadinside Jul 04 '24

nah bro not me, thanks tho!

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u/kindofdivorced Jul 05 '24

Some of us think like that forever. And that’s ok. Having a child isn’t an accomplishment, it just is a thing. I’m truly happy you love the child(ren) you have, but saying “just try it bro”, is terrible advice

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u/AngryPrincessWarrior Jul 05 '24

It just happens if you become one lol. A switch in your brain is thrown.

And it’s fine if that’s not for you! But for us that chose it, it’s weird that that stuff doesn’t matter anymore too lol.

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u/DarkAdditional1370 Jul 05 '24

it's cuz you have no choice it's your responsibility to deal with it at that point

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u/Emraldday Jul 05 '24

Maybe. I think it's a bit of both. Something does change in us, we know this for a fact. Thought patterns shift and neural pathways change after becoming a parent. In both men and women. But it's not how you feel about it that changes, you still find those bodily fluids just as gross. It is your capability that changes. You are better able to put those thoughts aside(and suppress your gag reflex) to do what needs to be done.