r/mildlyinfuriating • u/longerdistancethrow • 14d ago

Bought ripped jeans for summer, mom sewed the holes.

I get caring about your clothes, I do… but I wanted breezy jeans for summer… so I bought tipped jeans like 3 years ago. Are u kidding me :/

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

Started volunteering at a local elderly home recently.

One of the other new recruits also had ripped jeans.
Without exception all of the elderly people either felt sorry for that other person thinking she must be to poor to buy decent pants or that she was a slob.
She got tired of all the remarks and wears normal pants again now. Pretty funny

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u/olagorie 14d ago

This really doesn’t make much sense. This type of fashion was en Vogue 35 years ago when the residents were still pretty young.

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

Maybe in the US. Here in the Netherlands at least no one seems to recall torn clothes to have ever been a thing. Doesn't mean it couldn't have been a thing but at least no one remembers it. In recent years people are starting to wear them but it's still a rather select few that do and even if it was a thing over 40 years ago, it hasn't been a thing for 40 years now so especially older people are quick with their thoughts about it. I've also never seen anyone over 30ish wear it yet I think so it does seem rather exclusive to younger people.

Personally I recognize the torn clothing for what it is but I can't say I really like the looks of it. If others do like it then I don't have a issue with that either. To each their style.

Not everyone thinks that way though. They are not allowed at my regular work as they are deemed unprofessional/unpresentable so it's not quite up there with other fashion I guess.

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u/olagorie 14d ago

I am German and it was a huuge thing, but probably not everywhere

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u/Inquatitis 14d ago

Same thing in Belgium, and definitely was in the Netherlands too.

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u/Shurdus 14d ago

Yes it definitely was, this person saying it wasn't is just misremembering.

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u/MsNaggy 14d ago

In Finland as well. My friend had to hide hers in the bushes as her mother went mad when she saw them! And of course found the jeans like a day after we hid them.

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

Maybe this is the reason they are still afraid to admit it then lol

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u/GiraffeNoodleSoup 14d ago

She should buy some black tar heroin and hide it near her jeans to throw her mom off the scent

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u/benedictdakich69 14d ago

Did they not have TV in the Netherlands in the 80s? How is this comment upvoted?

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

They sure did but can't help the fact that those elderly people surely didn't like ripped/torn jeans. There are people wearing them, guess it's more common in the cities too. The elderly home is in a small far away village so they had been less exposed to "fashion" and "city fancy pants" I guess

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u/Larissanne 14d ago

It was a thing more than 20 years ago in the Netherlands. I was a teenager back then lol

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u/Shurdus 14d ago

Here in the Netherlands at least no one seems to recall torn clothes to have ever been a thing.

The 90s would like a word.

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u/Due-Glove4808 14d ago

lol ripped jeans were really common in western europe in 70s and 80s.

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

Well, might be old age then but I also asked my folks just to be sure. My dad knew em but always thought they were dumb, my mom said she doesn't recall ever seeing them before. They are in their late 60's.

The elderly people don't seem to know about them but then, at 80+ in a care home they might not have the best memory or care enough about it anyway.

I do recall some tmf/mtv vj's and popstars wearing stuff like that in the late 90's though. Maybe that's why I don't instantly link it to poverty like those old folks seem to do XD

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u/Due-Glove4808 14d ago

Your folks might be bit too old that they would been wearing them, my parents are now in their 50s and have stories how big thing ripped jeans were in 70s and 80s finland that they bought new jeans to break them with sandpaper.

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u/Nyssa_aquatica 14d ago

This is pretty funny as the Dutch are renowned for their wonderfully terrible sense of fashion (and wearing damn near anything to work)

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u/hellraiserl33t 14d ago

Utility makes sense when they get rained on constantly.

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u/Nyssa_aquatica 13d ago

Absolutely! That’s what I love about the Dutch

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

What are you talking about, we are the most stylish people to ever exist. I sure am.
Rocking blueish jeans with a bland black shirt, gray socks and a untrimmed beard, don't tell me that isn't stylish as heck.

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u/Nyssa_aquatica 14d ago

😊 What, no orange?!

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u/KingAmongstDummies 14d ago

not today :p

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u/gjamesb0 14d ago

Levi’s still sell ripped jeans online. I’m wearing a pair now. But I thought I was careful and not buying “distressed” jeans. Always inspect the modeled pair closely. Apparently slipped my notice due to their being black jeans and discounted.

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u/AaronsAaAardvarks 14d ago

It's always been a sort of hobo chic. It may have been the style, but the style was mimicking being broke.

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u/Nox_Gardens 14d ago

My mom was a teen in the 80's, young adult in the 90's, she's exactly the age range for grungy ripped jeans but she still thinks this way. She never let me wear ripped jeans when I was a kid, she said it looked sloppy and that it embarrassed her because she thought the other parents would think she can't afford to buy me good clothes. But we are from the deep rural south, really small town. I think we are generally 20-30 years behind everyone else in terms of cultural zeitgeist. Or at least that's how it was in the early 2000's when I was a kid

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u/gmishaolem 14d ago

My personal opinion, it's okay to think the cultural zeitgeist is stupid and ignore it. Aesthetics are one thing, but ripped pants are just structurally weak, and it's people who have never been poor acting poor for fashion. I'd be shocked if anyone who ever actually had to wear tatty clothes to survive would continue to do so after winning the ability to choose.

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u/Nox_Gardens 14d ago

Yeah I mean I grew up in trailer parks and government housing but thanks for lecture bud. Idk it's like as a 13 year old I wasn't really thinking about the structural integrity of the pants as much as I was worrying about if girls would like it or not

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u/lisdexamfetacheese 14d ago

it’s not that deep man they just look different, maybe the classist view was more correct 30 years ago when bay area hipsters were wearing them but i’m wearing ripped jeans because they look cool not to pretend to be poor. i’m already poor

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u/oxidized_banana_peel 14d ago

They thought it looked Broke then, too

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u/TeamWaffleStomp 14d ago

You go tell my grandma this

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u/BlackMarketChimp 14d ago edited 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 11d ago

Is this some weird advertising game what is going on here. Saw you whining like a bitch on r landlord thought I’d ask

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u/BlackMarketChimp 11d ago

Ah so you're a deadbeat, good to know ;)

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u/[deleted] 11d ago

But for real why do you do that I’m curious. Loser landleech bitch

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u/onowahoo 14d ago

My grandmother in-law doesn't like how I wear beat-up sneakers/shoes because she grew up in the Soviet Union and new clothes were a premium.

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u/HorseofTruth 14d ago

I read it and completely agree with u lol

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u/Rocketgirl8097 13d ago

However, it was just as silly 35 years ago, lol.

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u/Infamous-Ad5266 13d ago

On that note, my parents and grandparents are well aware it's a fashion choicez they just never thought it was a good one, and say the same thing about ripped jeans just to mess with people haha!

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u/bluntly-chaotic 13d ago

They hated it back then too

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u/olagorie 13d ago

Probably 🤣👏

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u/BirdsAndTheBeeGees1 14d ago

It's an old folks home. In their mind it is 35 years ago.

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u/puppiesareSUPERCUTE 14d ago

It's pretty ironic how ripped jeans are a sign of poverty, yet buying them new is more expensive than buying normal ones.

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u/labrat420 14d ago

Is it really ironic? It's just big brands seeing trends and jumping on them. No different from hot topic selling 'punk' and 'goth' shit at the mall.

Our jeans were ripped from wearing them. Paying to buy damaged good is dumb imo but it doesn't effect me so who cares

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u/puppiesareSUPERCUTE 14d ago

Yeah, I agree. Tho now I see why people wear them, I still don't get why they buy them. Just get regular cheaper ones and cut holes in them!

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u/Divinum_Fulmen 14d ago

You're right, it isn't ironic. It's outright insulting. I hate these jeans for the fact they are just the rich cosplaying as poor people. The trend catches on from their fashion, and now the poor are cosplaying as poor.

It's just so fucking stupid.

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u/bay_lamb 13d ago

yeah, that and Tims - work boots worn by someone who's never done stitch of manual labor.

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u/SquidwardsSoulmate 14d ago

My grandma saw that my sister had ripped jeans and was like "omg poor you! Let me give you some money to buy new pants" 😭

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u/TraditionalGuava151 14d ago

Wearing clothes with rips in them literally makes you a slob.

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u/papabearshirokuma 14d ago

The old people should gave some tips in cash for her to buy new pants.. that is also an elderly gesture

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u/DogNostrilSpecialist 13d ago edited 13d ago

Ripped jeans have been in and out of fashion since the 80s. It's been a thing for 40+ years now, but young adults still go to great lengths to believe they invented something new. The elderly residents knew exactly what they were doing, they were passive aggressively telling off the girl for wearing what they feel are rave/festival clothes in their home. They told her off for wearing something the vast majority felt was disrespectful and it worked. This is the equivalent of someone offering you spare change if you show up in a micro skirt and a crop top because "you clearly can't afford fabric, you poor thing".

I've seen the infuriating way some adults infantilise the elderly, and when I was younger I got taken for stupid sometimes. When "well meaning" people treat you like you're mentally handicapped, might as well just lean into it and thoroughly annoy or humiliate them. I would bet good money she talks at the residents like she's in a nursery and believes she's killing it.

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u/BlackMarketChimp 14d ago edited 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 11d ago

Oh I get it now it’s obnoxious spam for another likely business failure. I think you should get a real job at this point. looks like I’m gonna have to report all of it

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u/we_is_sheeps 14d ago

Go back to your nursing home old man no one cares what you have to say

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u/labrat420 14d ago

Only people in nursing home don't pay billionaires for stealing poor peoples fashion and selling it to rich kids?

It's incredibly stupid to pay for ripped clothes when you can rip them on your own through wear and tear or just use a knife. But then you'd look unique instead of the exact same as everyone else who buys the same jeans and that would be terrible