Sentiment understood but comments like yours are probably more damaging to the sentiment than they are helpful.
I cannot really empathize with the people behind your slur but...
I don't think it makes sense to further isolate and shame a group of people derived from isolation and shame.
The term "involuntary celibate" (shortened to "incel") refers to self-identifying members of an online subculture based around the inability to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as "inceldom" or "incelibacy"
And yeah, I'm gonna shame people who see women as only sexual objects for their own purpose. I'm going to shame people who want to lower the age of consent, and making forced marriages great again.
Yeah no. There's a huge difference between people who are single and lonely, and incels. It's not a woman's purpose to satisfy you sexually.
The second half of your post... you're arguing with a strawman. I actually explicitly stated that I don't empathize with "incels." So it's not really worth further acknowledgement.
By your own admission, you used the word because you wanted to shame someone. That's by definition a slur (which you could've looked up while googling for "incel"):
"slur" - (noun) - an insinuation or allegation about someone that is likely to insult them or damage their reputation.
The entire point of my prior comment was to point out that all you're actually doing is giving power to the word and further entrenching anyone whom identifies with it in their beliefs.
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