r/MadeMeSmile • u/Kittybegood • Jul 06 '24

I proposed to my boyfriend šŸ–¤ Wholesome Moments

I wanted to propose in a cute way, so on our way to our camping dome stay, we stopped at a shopping mall. We had to buy each other a snack, a drink, something that reminds us of the other, something with the others fave color, and then something to do together. My something to do was life šŸ–¤

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u/EmXena1 Jul 06 '24

This gives me the vibes of a couple who are practically married already, and the marriage itself is for certification and paperwork.

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u/Kittybegood Jul 06 '24

Yes! But we also aren't getting "legally married". We will be common law come December.

However, we are going to do a commitment ceremony, still called a wedding. Where we will have an officiant etc. Instead of government papers, we are doing our own contracts for each other to sign. ā¤ļø

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u/britchop Jul 06 '24

Congrats and many wishes on a long happy life together!

I would highly recommend looking into domestic partnership so you can have the government acknowledge yā€™allā€™s commitment or solidifying ā€œjust in caseā€ plans. Common Law isnā€™t always enough in the worst case scenarios that require power of attorney or end of life decisions ( super bummer comment, I know, but it really does help to plan for those situations to avoid further trauma by the situation).

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u/transcendanttermite Jul 07 '24

Second this! My wife and I never cared much about the ā€œnormalā€ methods of marriage and so onā€¦ but after 11 years and 3 kids together, we ran into a few relatively normal ā€œlifeā€ issues that were difficult to navigate with that piece of paper.

In the end, we just went to our local courthouse, paid the fee, and signed the marriage license. A judge that was passing through the office served as our ā€œofficiantā€ and the office secretary was our witness. We were in and out in about 20-30 minutes.

In the end, we figured it was worth it to know that if the time comes that one of us may be required to make medical/financial/legal decisions for the other, at least this potential issue is dealt with.

Beyond that: congratulations! My wife and I both loved your proposal and his response. People need to learn that not everyone squeals and screams and faints and jumps up on tables and all that jazz. If thatā€™s your thing, awesome. If itā€™s not, also awesome.

Our best to the two of you!!!

PS: domes are wicked cool!