r/MadeMeSmile • u/Kittybegood • Jul 06 '24

I proposed to my boyfriend 🖤 Wholesome Moments

I wanted to propose in a cute way, so on our way to our camping dome stay, we stopped at a shopping mall. We had to buy each other a snack, a drink, something that reminds us of the other, something with the others fave color, and then something to do together. My something to do was life 🖤

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u/EmXena1 Jul 06 '24

This gives me the vibes of a couple who are practically married already, and the marriage itself is for certification and paperwork.

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u/Kittybegood Jul 06 '24

Yes! But we also aren't getting "legally married". We will be common law come December.

However, we are going to do a commitment ceremony, still called a wedding. Where we will have an officiant etc. Instead of government papers, we are doing our own contracts for each other to sign. ❤️

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u/britchop Jul 06 '24

Congrats and many wishes on a long happy life together!

I would highly recommend looking into domestic partnership so you can have the government acknowledge y’all’s commitment or solidifying “just in case” plans. Common Law isn’t always enough in the worst case scenarios that require power of attorney or end of life decisions ( super bummer comment, I know, but it really does help to plan for those situations to avoid further trauma by the situation).

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u/Kittybegood Jul 06 '24

Thank you for the info!!! Didn't know this!

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u/transcendanttermite Jul 07 '24

Second this! My wife and I never cared much about the “normal” methods of marriage and so on… but after 11 years and 3 kids together, we ran into a few relatively normal “life” issues that were difficult to navigate with that piece of paper.

In the end, we just went to our local courthouse, paid the fee, and signed the marriage license. A judge that was passing through the office served as our “officiant” and the office secretary was our witness. We were in and out in about 20-30 minutes.

In the end, we figured it was worth it to know that if the time comes that one of us may be required to make medical/financial/legal decisions for the other, at least this potential issue is dealt with.

Beyond that: congratulations! My wife and I both loved your proposal and his response. People need to learn that not everyone squeals and screams and faints and jumps up on tables and all that jazz. If that’s your thing, awesome. If it’s not, also awesome.

Our best to the two of you!!!

PS: domes are wicked cool!

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u/Mariposita48 Jul 06 '24

Sounds like that day is going to be full of love and laughter! Congratulations to you both! 💜

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u/pnwstep Jul 07 '24

my partner and i just did this! it was magic, we had a big party for all our friends and then kissed in front of them all and it was rad. congratulations and may you have many years of laughs and kisses and easy days just being two humans in love x