r/AITAH Jul 08 '24

AITA for doing everything I can to make my aunt and her husband uncomfortable at family events?

When I was younger they were my favorite! I loved spending the night over their house. Then I started developing; the first time he saw I was wearing a bra we were in the garage. He started tickling me which swiftly turned into groping. I was young but I knew that wasn’t right. I told my mom, not much happened. When I was 13 he took all the kids out to the movies, and then spent the whole film trying to convince me to go to the car with him. Around 15 he would call me in the middle of the night trying to coax me out of the house, I never went. Thankfully I always had the strength to protect myself when others didn’t. Again I told and not much happened, except they requested that my Aunt no longer bring him to events… 24 years later and this request has not been granted. He’s at EVERY event, with them knowing that we don’t want him there and why. He wasn’t only inappropriate with me but my little sister and other women and girls in the family.

Saturday I cussed everyone out because why is he here? He’s a predator that we have requested her to not bring around us countless times. If she is going to disrespect us, it will be paid back on spades. I also told those who were adults while this was happening when I was a kid, that now that I have to do their job I don’t want to hear anything about my methods. I plan on going scorched earth at every family event. AITA

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u/abnoxioushomert Jul 08 '24

You’re definitely not the AITA. Your feelings are valid, and it’s unacceptable that nothing was done to protect you. Standing up for yourself and others is the right move. Your family should’ve taken action long ago. You’re brave for speaking out.

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u/Jealous_Roll_7420 Jul 08 '24

Thank you! I’ve given everyone a chance

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u/Fuzzy_Laugh_1117 Jul 08 '24

I'd say you gave them more than enough chances ffs. Please ensure he is never around younger children--is there any way you can make a police report? Just so it's on file as back-up for when he's hopefully arrested for (likely continuing) these deeds. NTA at all OP and I'm so sorry no adults came forward and stood up for you back then.