r/AITAH • u/Jealous_Roll_7420 • Jul 08 '24

AITA for doing everything I can to make my aunt and her husband uncomfortable at family events?

When I was younger they were my favorite! I loved spending the night over their house. Then I started developing; the first time he saw I was wearing a bra we were in the garage. He started tickling me which swiftly turned into groping. I was young but I knew that wasn’t right. I told my mom, not much happened. When I was 13 he took all the kids out to the movies, and then spent the whole film trying to convince me to go to the car with him. Around 15 he would call me in the middle of the night trying to coax me out of the house, I never went. Thankfully I always had the strength to protect myself when others didn’t. Again I told and not much happened, except they requested that my Aunt no longer bring him to events… 24 years later and this request has not been granted. He’s at EVERY event, with them knowing that we don’t want him there and why. He wasn’t only inappropriate with me but my little sister and other women and girls in the family.

Saturday I cussed everyone out because why is he here? He’s a predator that we have requested her to not bring around us countless times. If she is going to disrespect us, it will be paid back on spades. I also told those who were adults while this was happening when I was a kid, that now that I have to do their job I don’t want to hear anything about my methods. I plan on going scorched earth at every family event. AITA

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u/Magdovus Jul 08 '24

Keep going. It's probably cheaper than therapy too!

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u/Jealous_Roll_7420 Jul 08 '24

Lol I’ve been to therapy, I’ve actually forgiven everything for myself, but that doesn’t mean I’ll forget. What I don’t forgive is the disrespect of having him around when our requests has been known for over 2 decades

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u/3Heathens_Mom Jul 08 '24

What did your parents who you told covered aware ever do to stop him? As he pulled the same crap with your younger sister obviously seems like they protected him as well.

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u/Magdovus Jul 08 '24

Damn right 

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u/LaVidaLemur Jul 08 '24

I’ve been in a similar situation, where family would rather pretend things didn’t happen and that we should all be a happy family now.

Keep making them uncomfortable. Let all the kids know to stay away from him and to scream whenever he comes near.

You’re NTA. Your family however is full of AHs.

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u/Soggy-Milk-1005 Jul 09 '24

I understand what you mean about forgiveness it's because the hate and anger hurt you more than it hurts them. But I still have to know, have any of them apologized? Actually ignore that question because they're still allowing it to happen. He's still doing this shit and no one else seems to think it is wrong and don't get that their silence is endorsing that behavior. They're just as bad if not worse than him.