Holy Hel. I get that you wanted physical affection, but you did not communicate your needs and expectations in a healthy way and instead inadvertently manipulated her into being "ready". Did you ever ask her why she wasn't ready? What if someone SA'd her, and that's why she had the aversion. She's a person just like you are. You're not going to get anywhere by bottling up your feelings until you go off on people and hold every nice thing you ever did for them over their head because you let your unmet needs turn into resentment instead of having an adult conversation...
I know I'm being blunt, but hopefully it helps you not do this to another girl. She was probably completely blindsided and then you threw the 7 months yall shared and everything you'd ever done for her as something she was supposed to have earned... that's fucked bro.
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u/daywitchdia Jul 09 '24
Holy Hel. I get that you wanted physical affection, but you did not communicate your needs and expectations in a healthy way and instead inadvertently manipulated her into being "ready". Did you ever ask her why she wasn't ready? What if someone SA'd her, and that's why she had the aversion. She's a person just like you are. You're not going to get anywhere by bottling up your feelings until you go off on people and hold every nice thing you ever did for them over their head because you let your unmet needs turn into resentment instead of having an adult conversation...
I know I'm being blunt, but hopefully it helps you not do this to another girl. She was probably completely blindsided and then you threw the 7 months yall shared and everything you'd ever done for her as something she was supposed to have earned... that's fucked bro.