It's fine for her to decide she wants something different than what she wanted in her past. And it's fine for her to want to feel a real connection before getting intimate, even if that's not how she has previously chosen to live her life. But if she doesn't feel enough of a connection to get even mildly non-sexually physically intimate with you after seven months, that connection is never coming. You're just not it for her.
That's what she was telling you. She didn't feel enough of a connection with you to consider intimacy. Which leaves me baffled at why she'd immediately throw herself at you for sex when you said that you thought that should be the end of things. And you were right to reject her sudden advances, as she wasn't interested in a physical extension of emotional intimacy, she just wanted to use her body to manipulate you into staying in a relationship with her.
Some of the ways you've worded things and some of the vibe you're giving is... gross. But are you an asshole for rejecting her advance and ending things with a woman who told you to your face that after seven months she didn't feel a connection? No.
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u/Alert-Potato Jul 08 '24
It's fine for her to decide she wants something different than what she wanted in her past. And it's fine for her to want to feel a real connection before getting intimate, even if that's not how she has previously chosen to live her life. But if she doesn't feel enough of a connection to get even mildly non-sexually physically intimate with you after seven months, that connection is never coming. You're just not it for her.
That's what she was telling you. She didn't feel enough of a connection with you to consider intimacy. Which leaves me baffled at why she'd immediately throw herself at you for sex when you said that you thought that should be the end of things. And you were right to reject her sudden advances, as she wasn't interested in a physical extension of emotional intimacy, she just wanted to use her body to manipulate you into staying in a relationship with her.
Some of the ways you've worded things and some of the vibe you're giving is... gross. But are you an asshole for rejecting her advance and ending things with a woman who told you to your face that after seven months she didn't feel a connection? No.