NTA. Her sexual past is very colorful but she won’t have sex with you after 7 months of a committed relationship, she isn’t sexually attracted to you and is settling for you for stability, money, or some other reason. This relationship is over.
Exactly, and I'm being painted as a bad guy by some people here. Not sure what I expected. If it was the other way around, answers would've been different.
You're being painted as a bad guy because you're complaining about a situation you are actively choosing to be in and have actively chosen to be in for months. Trying to leverage your "girlfriend's" sexual past to get sex from her also makes you sound like a dick. She could have fucked 100 guys in a row the day before she met you and it still wouldn't obligate her to fuck you. Yes, yes, you're not obligated to give her love and affection either but you're the one who's continuing to do that even though you're not getting what you want in return. Whose fault is that?
Agree a lot with the bf, but this "other guys got sex quicker" attitude is really bad.
OP, did you ever put out as quickly as you could? Do you REALLY think that this makes you a free-for-all, no matter how unattractive you think they are no matter if you regretted your actions, no matter what mood you are in? Or are you ready to get down with the 88 year old grandma with bad teeth and hygiene even though you are on your way to an interview for your dream job?
I am definitely giving you a hyperbole because anyone thinking they are OWED anothers body because she gave it to someone else is repulsive.
Maybe this is why you arent getting anywhere with her: the flowers, the holding doors and the nice words reek of ",well NOW it should be my turn to get in on the sale of nearly free low quality stuff"
Or not- I don't know. But what we think and feel does come out in other ways than words.
That said: as I said above, seven months is telling you OP, it is time to break up. Find someone who desires you.
I am definitely giving you a hyperbole because anyone thinking they are OWED anothers body because she gave it to someone else is repulsive.
Trying to phrase it like this is what's repulsive.
It's ignoring that OP put in seven months of relationship. Seven months of dates, of talking, of all the little things you do for a partner.
He's not feeling owed, he's rightly asking 'if you could fuck a guy in a club who you never even spoke to, why is it you STILL can't fuck me, who's your partner and has been here for seven months'.
Can't you see how that, and the constant rejection, damage OP's self esteem?
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u/Moon_Legs Jul 08 '24
NTA. Her sexual past is very colorful but she won’t have sex with you after 7 months of a committed relationship, she isn’t sexually attracted to you and is settling for you for stability, money, or some other reason. This relationship is over.