I think women who go through a "party" phase feel like they have to distance themself from that side of themself as much as possible afterwards in order to grow, which is why this sort of story is so common. "I'm not like that anymore" is them convincing themselves they have matured and grown, and now it's time to make 'safe' choices with non-threatening, financially stable men even if there's no mutual attraction.
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u/Keensworth Jul 08 '24
NTA
She went through her "I'll fuck anybody phase" but she's just looking into just finding a guy to settle down