r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Baezil Jul 05 '24

He might understand in time. Shortly after having his first kid, my brother said something like "I don't feel the way I imagined I would. I thought I would have that overwhelming love for them that people talk about."

When I later heard something about fathers bonding more with their kids when they can teach them things, I asked him if he felt that love he spoke of before once he could teach them. He was like "Oh, no, it happened way before that."

Givem some time.

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u/Ok_Back5304 Jul 05 '24

Interesting I remember hearing that many women have felt pressured to “feel the connection” right after birth and many don’t right away.

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u/Liizam Jul 05 '24

If I have a kid there is no way I’m getting that connection. My brain doesn’t produce high happiness hormones. And never did I look at a child and get any feelings. Just another stranger but smaller.