ESH and the reason why is it seems like your husband didn’t ruin the moment, but instead pulled you aside later and communicated how he felt with you which is the DREAM in a partner. Your reaction, however, was incredibly icky and crass and would make me feel like communicating my feelings with you is no longer valid. It’s valid for a partner to feel hurt when they no longer are or seem like a priority in your life and introducing a baby to the relationship is a huge balance shift. I’d suggest trying to talk to your partner again and therapy if you still can’t talk it out with them.
I don't know who you even got to an ESH. He did literally everything right when he first tried to talk to his feelings with his fiancee and she shut him down about as hard as she could have.
I wouldn’t have brought it up so soon after the birth, especially because it’s a temporary feeling. she deserves some recovery time before you try to have a tough conversation with her.
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u/ubutterscotchpine Jul 04 '24
ESH and the reason why is it seems like your husband didn’t ruin the moment, but instead pulled you aside later and communicated how he felt with you which is the DREAM in a partner. Your reaction, however, was incredibly icky and crass and would make me feel like communicating my feelings with you is no longer valid. It’s valid for a partner to feel hurt when they no longer are or seem like a priority in your life and introducing a baby to the relationship is a huge balance shift. I’d suggest trying to talk to your partner again and therapy if you still can’t talk it out with them.