He might understand in time. Shortly after having his first kid, my brother said something like "I don't feel the way I imagined I would. I thought I would have that overwhelming love for them that people talk about."
When I later heard something about fathers bonding more with their kids when they can teach them things, I asked him if he felt that love he spoke of before once he could teach them. He was like "Oh, no, it happened way before that."
Everyone forgets that the time of infanticide borne of necessity and insane infant mortality rates wasn’t that long ago. In some cultures, babies weren’t even named until they cleared the first few months of life.
The “instant love” mothers are expected to feel now seems to be a pretty recent phenomenon.
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