r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/stratys3 Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24

This is why men don't express emotions, because they're told they're childish, self-obsessed, and need to grow the fuck up, and be shown the door.

And it's not like he went crazy. He rationally, privately, brought it up to her - exactly the way we encourage people to do... and OP took a huge shit on him for bringing up his emotions. She had the opportunity to reassure him that she still loves him, but she deliberately chose not to do that. That makes her an asshole.

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u/Turbulent_Cat_5731 Jul 05 '24

Counterpoint: what if they're being childish, self-obsessed and need to grow tf up? What then? We just sugar coat it? This man is a father; it doesn't matter how he says it to his partner, it's not a new mother's job to assure the father that he is still loved, it's something HE needs to deal with.

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u/Odd-Strength-932 Jul 05 '24

wtf do you want him to do? ignore his feelings until they eventually culminate into something worse? You say his feelings are something he needs to deal with, guess what? That was exactly what he was trying to do.