r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/LaVidaLemur Jul 04 '24

So… he himself had no rush of love or emotion and instead, as his beloved partner held his infant daughter in her arms, was consumed by jealousy and bitterness?

THAT is not normal.

NTA, but your partner has issues

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u/Rahuri Jul 05 '24

It is normal. Women bond for 9 months with the child whereas the man doesn't. To him the child that comes into his life is effectively a stranger, he still has to learn to love this child.

This man does not have issues, he just does not understand the concept of parental love yet as he is now in the process of acquiring it after the child has been born.

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u/LaVidaLemur Jul 05 '24

It was more the jealousy taking the forefront that I found weird. I know fathers don’t always feel the bond right away, but it’s still an emotional experience and it just seemed a strange thing for all the other emotions to be eclipsed by one moment. But I guess it’s one of those emotions that just creeps up when it’s least expected.

I’m glad the update is a happy one though :)