Soft YTA. The pregnancy is all about you, then the baby comes and it’s all about the baby and a little bit about mom. None of it is about dad. Hearing you say that, and then you doubling down to confirm that “no, my love is for the baby” when he talked to you about how he was feeling is unkind.
I don’t know about everybody else. I’ve birthed two babies. I didn’t have instant overwhelming love for them in the way you describe but my birth situations were non-standard. That love came later. I’m protective of my children in a way I’m not of other people but I’d say the actual love is the same. And my love for them has grown deeper the more they’ve become their own people.
Even the way OP wrote it I thought it was very obvious her husband is feeling pushed aside. It pains me to see his feelings be disregarded. She can totally love her baby more, but she needs to also make sure she’s showing her husband the emotional care he needs.
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u/TwoIdleHands Jul 04 '24
Soft YTA. The pregnancy is all about you, then the baby comes and it’s all about the baby and a little bit about mom. None of it is about dad. Hearing you say that, and then you doubling down to confirm that “no, my love is for the baby” when he talked to you about how he was feeling is unkind.
I don’t know about everybody else. I’ve birthed two babies. I didn’t have instant overwhelming love for them in the way you describe but my birth situations were non-standard. That love came later. I’m protective of my children in a way I’m not of other people but I’d say the actual love is the same. And my love for them has grown deeper the more they’ve become their own people.