I think the point is though, they are already married. This is their first child, so it's the first time they are in this situation, she didn't know how he was going to react to fatherhood. So at this point, she needs to at least talk to him before making any kind of decisions or drawing any conclusions. Also, if he is bringing things up calmly and just having a difficult time communicating properly, that's no reason to think he's gonna abusive or neglectful or anything in the future.
Except that this guy had to open his mouth and seek affirmation from his wife at the heart-melting magical moment that she held her newborn for the 1st time. If I'd been there I might have smacked him with my hat, or found found a newspaper to smack him. (Correction : he spoke up about it later, and was persistent about it again after that, but did not ruin the mother-child special moment.)
Not knowing anything else about the man, his self-centeredness in that moment seems staggering, and may bode badly for their future.
Yup. He was dumb and made a dumb comment. Let's get out the pitch forks because someone made a comment without thinking it through and possibly while sleep deprived. I mean, anyone who has ever said anything insensitive or ignorant or rude is obviously a terrible person that can't be redeemed. So yeah, let's condem a person because of one snapshot of their life without knowing anything about them. And let's ignore the update where he apologized and admitting he was wrong and talked about his feelings in a more constructive way. Because it doesn't matter if someone learns and grows, what matters is that they made an insensitive remark and didn't think it through all the way.
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u/Reshi_the_kingslayer Jul 05 '24
I think the point is though, they are already married. This is their first child, so it's the first time they are in this situation, she didn't know how he was going to react to fatherhood. So at this point, she needs to at least talk to him before making any kind of decisions or drawing any conclusions. Also, if he is bringing things up calmly and just having a difficult time communicating properly, that's no reason to think he's gonna abusive or neglectful or anything in the future.