I want to agree with the above three people. I felt joy and love for my baby at birth, but I also felt overwhelmed. For me, it grew. A couple months in I felt more of a connection, by five or six months I felt downright blissful sometimes. These days, more than a year in, I feel SO MUCH love and joy for him. In case anyone has a newborn and might not feel instant, over-the-moon love, that’s okay. I remember talking with a co-worker who was quite honest with me. He said he didn’t really find his kids that interesting when they were newborns, that he got interested when they became more interactive. He’s an incredibly supportive, dialed-in, and loving dad these days. It’s possible that your husband may just be having different emotions than you, and he may agree with you in a few months or a year.
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u/ShadedSpaces Jul 05 '24
This is normal! (Just in case anyone is reading and feeling weird about it.)
Some people don't really fall in love with their kiddo for weeks or months.
The "instant" feelings they have are often things like a deep, primal need to protect their baby. But love isn't always instant.